15 Self-Love Habits and Tips That Every Woman Should Embrace
15 Self-Love Habits and Tips That Every Woman Should Embrace
Let me ask you this very important question: “If you loved yourself, would you continue to do something that you did not want to do?”
Self-love is the key to unlocking your greatness! And, the lack of it is at the root of many relational challenges. How many times have you heard, “If you can’t love yourself, how do you expect anybody else to love you?” There might be a portion of the population who are self-loathing, however, truth is, people are not running around thinking to themselves, “I don’t love myself.” The lack of self-love shows up in ways that are expressed in our existence and in our lifestyle. You may wonder, what does self-love really mean anyways?
Self-love is full acceptance and appreciation of self and the fuel that allows us to reach our fullest potential and happiness. It grows through actions that feed the physical, psychological, and spiritual aspects of self. Self-love influences every aspect of your life including whom you date, how your partners and friends treat you, how your colleagues and friends view you, and how you treat others. It can be an existential concept and in the end, it can be the very thing that changes your life, as it is extremely beneficial to your mental and physical health. Receive a Self-Love Breakthrough Workbook here: SELF-LOVE BREAKTHROUGH
15 Essential Tips and Habits to Self-Love
1. Cultivate Body Appreciation - Know that your value does not lie in how your body looks. As women, we are so caught up in body image. It is something that has been ingrained in us through years of social learning and the patriarchy. Know that you are amazing not because of your body but because you are uniquely you.
2. Don’t Compare Yourself to Others - Sinead O’Conner’s song, “Nothing Compares To You” has a lot of validity. You are amazing just as you are. When you compare yourself to others it creates envy, low self-confidence, it can lead to depression and does not help you accomplish your goals.
3. Eliminate Negative Thinking - Don’t let your thoughts hold you captive. Refuse to be a victim to your thoughts. Get out of your head and into your body, and then do some somatic therapy to learn how to release your pain body, which creates the negative thinking in the first place. Learn to reframe your negative thinking.
4. Feel Your Feelings Fully - Feel your happiness. Feel your joy. Dive deep into your sorrow. Relish in your sadness, AND know that you are not your feelings. Often times, we avoid feeling our feelings. Your feelings are there to help you understand yourself more.
5. Live With Integrity - Keep the promises that you make to yourself. Having integrity is being in alignment between your words, actions and beliefs. If you say that you are going to do something and repeatedly do not follow through on it, you show lack of discipline, your reputation suffers, and you begin to lose self trust as well as the trust of others.
6. Prioritize Yourself As #1 - Put yourself first. Do you say, “yes,” when you mean “no?” Often as women we take care of everybody’s need first. Putting yourself first actually means that everybody else gets ‘more’ of you. Yes, this means saying no and doing what fills your self-love cup.
7. Practice Radical Self-Care (like your life depends on it because it does!)- This is all about pleasure. The pleasure revolution is on. When we experience pleasure- what ever YOU experience as pleasurable- a walk in nature, sex, eating chocolate, taking a bath with essential oils- the body releases dopamine, which is the feel good hormone. When you do something that is pleasurable, the body releases dopamine and it makes us feel better.
8. Develop Self-Awareness and Know Your Fears - Know your fears and what your triggers (strong emotional responses) are. In knowing our fears, we can begin to move through them. Fear is what keeps us from moving forward in doing what we want to do. Processing your fears can actually eliminate stuckness and anxiety in your life. When we know what our triggers are, we can learn to better manage our emotions.
9. Self-Exploration & Spirituality/Self Growth- Cultivate your unique style, know what turns you on, and know yourself so well that you are beaming with confidence. Allow yourself to step out of your comfort zone. That is where the real growth is. Take a class, workshop or do a retreat in an area that inspires or challenges you. Explore your spirituality. Whether you are religious or not, having faith or believing in something opens your soul.
10. Self-Kindness - Pay attention to how you treat and speak to yourself. Be kind to yourself and know that nobody is perfect. Allow your self to make mistakes, and forgive yourself for making them. Accept your humanness. Our mistakes are golden as they are our best teachers.
11. Self-Respect - Honor your worth, take pride in your gifts and abilities and express yourself with grace, honor and dignity. Without self-respect, we are prone to being used, abused and mistreated by other people.
12. Trust Yourself - You know yourself better than anyone else. Trust yourself to make decisions that honor what is best for you. Develop your intuition.
13. Spend Time With Your Womb - Develop a weekly practice of spending time with your womb, the most feminine aspect of you as woman. This part of our body goes unnoticed for a majority of women. Connect with her and listen to her on the daily.
14. Allow Yourself to Take Up Space - As woman we have been told that we are too much. Allow yourself to big and bold. Use your voice, let yourself be heard and express yourself.
15. Cultivate a Self-Love Ritual - While you are in the shower, take a moment to love up every inch of you. Or, create your own ritual : )
There are a lot of us who struggle with having self-love. Even some of the most successful people struggle with it. We tell ourselves that we are not worthy of own love until we loose 10 pounds, find a perfect partner, get the job or raise we wanted etc. You already deserve your own love, just as you are. Self-love begins with accepting where you are at in this moment, and then you can begin to build upon it. Self-love is something that we work on for our entire lives. There is not a quick recipe for it. It develops over time. You got this. Are you ready to unlock your greatness? Begin by practicing a couple of these principles of self-love and witness what begins to happen in your life.
** Receive a free ‘Self-Love Breakthrough’ Workbook below. Learn where you are on your self-love journey, what’s important, and the habits to build to increase self-love.
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